Welcome to day 28! I want you to celebrate yourselves for showing up and being so eager to unlearn and build something new. So let’s get into today’s micro lesson on values-based systems.
We talk about values all the time—what we believe in, what we stand for, what we reject. But talking about values and living them are two very different things.
I remember a moment that changed how I understood this.
I used to think honesty was the most important value, that telling the truth—no matter what—was always the right thing to do. But I learned that honesty without care is just brutality. That sometimes, in our rush to be “honest,” we ignore the responsibility of transparency with intention.
That moment made me realize how often we hold values without questioning them, without checking who they serve, who they harm, and whether they truly align with the world we’re trying to build.
We inherit values from family, culture, supremacy systems, and survival mechanisms that were designed to keep us “safe” in unjust structures. But when we don’t examine them, we end up reinforcing harm—sometimes to ourselves, sometimes to others.
And just like we shed winter layers as spring approaches, we must shed the values that no longer serve us and build systems that reflect who we actually are—not just who we were told to be.
This is the work of creating values-driven systems—of making sure the things we claim to care about are actually showing up in our homes, workplaces, and communities. Because if your values aren’t shaping your systems, you don’t have values—you have performance.
Lessons & Community Insights
✅ Value-driven systems are intentional and purposeful—They don’t happen by accident; they require continuous reflection and design.
✅ Values must be embedded in daily practices—You don’t just claim them; you show up in them every single day.
✅ Continuous reflection ensures alignment—Supremacy culture keeps us disconnected from ourselves and each other. We must actively reassess whether our systems still serve our values.
We also talked about how supremacy culture steals our time, keeping us so busy with survival that we don’t pause to ask: Does this still align?
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