Preparing for the Holidays Amidst Election Chaos: Navigating Family Spaces with Intention
The holidays are upon us, and for many, this season comes with a unique kind of stress: the intersection of family gatherings and the ever-looming tension of an election year. Whether it's navigating opposing political views, addressing harmful comments, or simply holding your own boundaries, the weight of these moments can feel especially heavy. But I want to remind you of something: you have the power to approach these interactions intentionally, prioritizing connection without sacrificing your values—or your peace.
Here’s how we can prepare to show up for the holidays in a way that honors ourselves and our loved ones, even when the dynamics feel fraught.
1. Center Yourself Before Engaging
Before walking into any family space, take a moment to ground yourself. This could look like a quiet meditation, a quick stretch, or journaling to process any fears or anticipations. Your body holds wisdom—listen to it. What emotions are rising? Where do you feel tension? By tuning into your body, you can address what’s present instead of carrying it into the room.
Action Tip: Try a grounding exercise, such as placing both feet on the floor, breathing deeply, and reminding yourself of your intentions for the gathering.
2. Hold Space for Complexity
Family gatherings are rarely black-and-white, just like the people in them. A beloved relative might hold harmful beliefs while also sharing memories that shaped who you are. It’s okay to acknowledge these complexities without dismissing the harm. Love, after all, is not synonymous with tolerance—it’s about holding multiple truths at once.
Reflection Question: How can you balance maintaining boundaries with fostering connection?
3. Decide on Your Non-Negotiables
This work isn’t about walking into a room unprepared or expecting things to 'work out.' Reflect on your non-negotiables. Are there topics you won’t engage with? Lines you won’t allow to be crossed? Set these boundaries with intention, knowing they are tools to protect your peace—not punish others.
Example Boundary: “I’m here to spend time with family, not to debate politics. If the conversation goes there, I’ll step away.”
4. Address, Don’t Avoid, the Uncomfortable
Avoiding difficult conversations often leads to bottled-up emotions that spill out later. Instead, approach these moments with curiosity. Ask questions, challenge with care, and remember: you’re not responsible for changing anyone’s mind in one sitting. Plant seeds, but know the soil may need time.
Script Example: “I hear what you’re saying, and I have a different perspective. Are you open to hearing mine?”
5. Prioritize Rest and Reflection
This season, give yourself permission to step away when needed. Quiet moments are necessary to process and recharge. Remember, your worth isn’t tied to your ability to endure discomfort or prove your stance at the dinner table. Rest is revolutionary.
The Gift of Preparedness
If you're looking for additional tools to navigate this season with intention and clarity, I’ve created a Holiday Family Dynamics Guide—an actionable resource to help you approach these moments with grace and alignment. It’s rooted in somatic practices, reflective exercises, and real-life strategies for creating meaningful connections while honoring your boundaries.
Final Thoughts
No matter what this season brings, I hope you choose connection over isolation, intention over reaction, and love over fear. The truth is, navigating these dynamics isn't just about surviving the holidays—it's about leaning into the work of liberation, even at the dinner table. You've got this.
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In solidarity and liberation,
Desireé B Stephens
Educator | Counselor | Community Builder
Founder of Make Shi(f)t Happen