Conflict Isn’t the Problem—Avoiding It Is
For too long, we’ve been conditioned to fear conflict. We’re taught that it disrupts peace, fractures relationships, and should be avoided at all costs. But the truth is, conflict is natural, necessary, and transformative—if we know how to engage with it.
Many of us, especially those raised under supremacy culture, patriarchy, and capitalism, were taught that conflict must either be won or avoided. But true liberation work requires us to challenge this fear of conflict and reframe it as an opportunity for deeper trust, repair, and structural change.
I’ve spent much of my life being told I was "too confrontational." But being willing to name harm, challenge power, and hold people accountable isn’t about conflict—it’s about justice. When we learn to engage in healthy, restorative conflict resolution, we create communities that are more resilient, more honest, and more rooted in trust.
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